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From 2005 to 2015, I owned a successful, award-winning research management firm. I read books on how to succeed and what strategies to use to get ahead. So when Sheryl Sandberg said to Lean In, I leaned in twice as far, because as Black women we are supposed to do everything twice as much as our counterparts. I almost fell flat on my face — I was putting so much into my business and less on the truly important things in my life, like family and friendships. (I later realized that I did not need the Sandberg lean, I needed the Celina swag.)